Ladies, salve have you ever felt, click like I do, that some people seem to “look down their noses” at you because you are a stay-at-home mom? I can’t tell you how many times I have been in a situation where I meet a new person or meet up with an acquaintance and they go through the list of stuff everyone in America seems to have to be: If over 27, MARRIED?, have children?, have a job?
Luckily I am/have 2 of those things. I am married to the most wonderful man God ever created (Don’t say “What about Jesus?” 😛 That is a given. I am talking about the other most wonderful man. :P). I also have my beautiful baby boy. What I don’t have is a paying full-time job.
Do I want one? Yes and no.
I would like one so that I could help support my family. I would like one because it seems like such a social faux-pas in America to not help the husband bring in the dough. Because I am such a social butterfly, I would like one because it would keep me busy and allow me to talk to other people.
With all of those wonderful opportunities, why have I not gone all gung ho over the next big job I could get? It can’t be that hard to find one right? Why am I holding back. Why are you holding back, stay-at-home mom? Probably for the same main reason that I am.
I am one of the privileged mothers that gets to stay home and take care of her baby. I get to see him laugh, clap, and dance. I’ll get to see his first steps and as I told a friend of mine, I do not want to pay somebody to enjoy it for me. We don’t have everything a 2 income family would like to have, but we budget our money pretty well and have what we need.
Just because I am a stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean I don’t do anything productive. It doesn’t mean that I am not constantly looking for jobs that I can do from home to earn some money for myself and for my family. It also doesn’t mean I have an easier time getting all things done (Check back with me when my baby is no longer a baby and I think things will be different).
Do you feel like I feel? Let me tell you a story.
A friend of mine was on the phone with her mother loud enough for me to hear the entire conversation, even though I was vegging on her couch with my sleeping son in my arms. As she was talking to her mother, the normal conversational questions came up… then came “She doesn’t work?” My friend replied, “No she stays home to take care of her son, like I do with [my daughter].” I didn’t take much offense to it. But my friend didn’t seem to like the “she doesn’t work?” comment.
Have you ever been in that type of situation? Or am I all alone in my thinking and feelings on this one.
And working mommies, if you had the chance, would you stay home with your children?
Megan A.K.A. “Mom”